What do avoid during pregnancy
- Alcohol. Alcohol has been linked to premature delivery, mental retardation, birth defects, and low birth weight babies
- Avoid drugs and smoking. Babies born to mothers who smoke weigh less on average. Doctors suspect the lower birth weight is due to restricted blood flow, which may also impair the passage of nutrients through the placenta to the baby. The carbon monoxide in cigarette smoke that enters the mother’s bloodstream also reduces the amount of oxygen that reaches the uterus. For these reasons, doctors advise pregnant women to also steer clear of secondhand smoke
- Limit your pills and medication intake unless supported by your doctor
- Limit caffeine to no more than 200 mg per day. The caffeine content in various drinks depends on the beans or leaves used and how it was prepared. An 8-ounce cup of coffee has about 150 mg of caffeine on average while black tea has typically about 80 mg. A 12-ounce glass of caffeinated soda contains anywhere from 30-60 mg of caffeine. Remember, chocolate contains caffeine — the amount of caffeine in a chocolate bar is equal to 1/4 cup of coffee.
- The use of saccharin is strongly discouraged during pregnancy because it can cross the placenta and may remain in fetal tissues. But, the use of other non-nutritive or artificial sweeteners is acceptable during pregnancy like Equal or NutraSweet. These sweeteners are considered safe in moderation so is better to talk with your health care provider about how much non-nutritive sweetener is acceptable during pregnancy
- Decrease the total amount of fat you eat to 30% or less of your total daily calories. For a person eating 2000 calories a day, this would be 65 grams of fat or less per day.
- Limit cholesterol intake to 300 mg or less per day.
- Do not eat shark, swordfish, king mackerel, or tilefish (also called white snapper), because they contain high levels of mercury.
- Avoid soft cheeses such as feta, Brie, Camembert, blue-veined, and Mexican-style cheese. These cheeses are often unpasteurized and may cause Listeria infection. There’s no need to avoid hard cheese, processed cheese, cream cheese, cottage cheese, or yogurt.
- Avoid raw fish, especially shellfish like oysters and clams and sashimi.
- Do not diet or try to lose weight during pregnancy — both you and your baby need the proper nutrients in order to be healthy. Keep in mind that you will lose some weight the first week your baby is born.
- Avoid Packaged ramen noodles. These quick-cooking noodles are packed with salt, fat, and little else.
- Avoid Soda. If you fill up on empty calories and sugar, you won’t have any room for more nutritious drinks. Low-fat milk, Vegan milk, water, and juice are better choices.
- Avoid Shelf-stable commercial lunches. Preservatives, salt, and fat make most of them a poor choice. There are some okay packaged lunch options out there, though, so check the labels!
- Avoid too many frozen prepared meals. There are some good choices out there, but many have high amounts of salt and fat. If you can’t avoid the occasional frozen meal, look for organic brands that are low in salt and fat.
- Avoid Iceberg lettuce. When it comes to lettuce, choose greens, such as romaine, that are full of fiber, A and C vitamins, folic acid, calcium and potassium. Iceberg lettuce has only trace amounts of these nutrients.
- Avoid or limit Spicy Foods: Such foods can cause complications for the mother, such as heartburn and acid reflux. This occurs more frequently in pregnant women because hormones released during pregnancy relax muscles in the digestive tract, allowing the stomach acids to rise more easily into the oesophagus, especially when lying down
If you have any problems that prevent you from eating balanced meals and gaining weight properly, you should ask your doctor for advice.
Herbal Support during Pregnancy: Pregnancy is not the time for a woman to start experimenting with herbal remedies. Herbs and herbal concoctions can exhibit powerful influence in a person’s body; a developing fetus can be even more directly (and negatively) affected.
Wednesday, November 5th 2014.
It was a beautiful Autumn sunny morning. Typic of Macau at this time of the year. Chilled mornings and warm afternoons. In fact, the nicest day of the week as temperatures dropped and grey skies and rain ruled during the whole week.
Alarm rang at 7 am like always…and there i was…nervous, excited, anxious but with a sense of calmness at the same time. Said good morning to Hubby and gave a kiss to my 23 months old Daughter Sienna.
I sat down in bed, an rub my bump…wondering if that was going to be the last time i would rub it and feel the baby moving or, if i had another week in front of me/us. (i had 2 dates for my c-section, Nov.5th and the 12th).
Filled my lungs with air and stood up…went over my maternity bags, to make sure i was not forgetting anything, in case i was giving birth that day.
Messages from friends and family kept coming as they all new there could be a possibility of the baby be born that day.
We left home at 8:15am…Sienna was happy and in good mood…she was having breakfast while watching Princess Sofia…her fav. I left happy and confident that she was going to be fine.
The day Sienna was born, pictures were taken from everywhere…starting at the carpark. I thought about it for this time as well, but something was telling me that we coming back home after the Dr’s appointment at 9am. In fact, both Hubby and I were pretty convinced that another week would be given to us. I keep saying and thinking that i have been through everything during this pregnancy, and agree and confirm that no pregnancy is the same…Been through everything until the due date..not knowing exactly when the baby was going to be born…Was a mixed feeling as contraction couldn’t come and labour couldn’t start either…In normal cases you sit and wait,,,i call it the waiting game, specially when you pass the due date!In my case, and for the 2nd time: no labour, no contractions, no water breaking, no back pain…nothing…
Ride to the hospital was easy and smooth…Music playing in the background, talk was nice and again, the weather was very pleasant…was a nice pleasant morning.
As we arrive at the Hospital carpark, we did what we were told to do…enroll ourselves at the Urgency Entrance…from there, i started to panic a little bit….a whole dejavú scenario, hospital smell, i admit i had to give a few deep breaths and tell myself to stay calm. That 3rd floor where pregnant women/non pregnant women kept coming, the floor where decisions are made, the floor where good news and bad news are shared!The floor where anxious parents and families are waiting for the news…the delivery ward floor, the waiting room floor, the floor i was told that my 1st baby was going to be born, the floor i was told i had had a miscarriage, the floor i was told that that this 2nd baby had to be born today, otherwise i am putting into risk her and my health. What an emotional elevator ride, what an emotional morning….everything happened soo fast!
I saw my Dr. at 9 am…actually, i went in the consultation room 1st to answer the same old same old questions….Hubby had to stay outside, he had no idea what was going on. After that, my heart rate and baby’s heart rate had to be monitored…for 40min….i remember being laid in bed reading my book…what comfort me was that, and my Penhaligon’s perfume in my pashmina. Nurse – not very friendly – kept coming and going…After 40min, i was told to wait at the waiting room with my husband, since they would call me soon….After 5 min, “Mariana” was said…we both stood up and we were ready to see the doctor….to our surprise, it was a different Dr, that knew nothing about my history…we asked to speak with our dr. (i could even hear the nurse mentioning to call the Dr. as he had no idea of my pregnancy history)…he was even asking why i was going for a c-section!After a few minutes, my Dr. (i will never forget her name) finally showed up…we were so happy to see her…in fact, i saw her once while being monitored…
She took us to a private room, where we stayed for 30min.In this 30min she explained that she thought it was better i had the c-section today because she could see that i had a contraction during those 40min. Was a small one, but it was a contraction. My heart jumped.Both Hubby and i made a lot of question, the pros and cons of making a c-section before the Baby is at least 39 – 40 weeks,..etc..i couldn’t think. Dr. explained very patiently and very detailed the situation. The pros and cons of waiting another week etc…
I told the Dr, that i rather wait until the 12th…and she told me “my heart just sank”…of course is the patient’s decision…the Dr. is there to tell us what is the best…and like the nurse told me later: “when in doubt, always follow what the Dr. advise”. At some point, hubby and her were looking at me both telling me with their looks – have it today to save yours and your babies’ life. I knew i was being stubborn and not thinking logically…i knew they were right….but was a lot to take in at once. With me was very simple….since i got pregnant 1year and 2 months after a C-section, and with my placenta laying low, i couldn’t risk starting labour and contractions as this could result in uterine rupture. Since there was already a contraction, why risk?why risk Mariana?
After 30min…i said “ok, let’s do it today”!Baby with no name yet was going to be born today!Smiles and words of encouragement were given. I was safe in her hands…nervous but i knew i was safe. Filled my lungs with air again, and couldn’t stop thinking about the fact that in a few hours i would be cuddling my little bundle of joy.
Paper work was filled, details were given…we asked when the surgery would happen…It was exactly 10.30…Dr. said, we will try to do before lunch time, we need to contact the whole team and see if the theater is available.
We went outside and start making calls to Family…Father and Sisters. I was nervous, with tears rolling in my eyes, i was anxious, i was happy but extremely hummmmm not disappointed…i was a little bit upset with giving birth at 38weeks +…All Drs. guarantee that the baby is full term and healthy. There was nothing to fear about. They explained that keeping the baby for longer would make the baby bigger and the lining thinner…so i kept thinking about our safety. Again, why risk a uterine rupture?!
At 11:05 i hug hubby, again with tears of joy and anxiety rolling…pictures were taken and there i entered in the delivery ward for them to prep me for a c-section. I knew the drill, i knew all the steps…i knew everything as if it was yesterday that i gave birth to Sienna…The image of a c-section and the whole prep kept crossing my mind since the first day i learned i was pregnant BUT it was more real, the moment i arrived at the hospital…i guess that was quite disturbing also…it was like a movie playing…i was telling myself “now they will do this, now they will do that”…the feeling of going in with a bump and leave with an empty one, the corridors, the nurses, the changing of beds, the lifts…all in my head.
What made me calm as soon as i arrive at the delivery ward?hearing a baby crying. I told to myself.,in a few hours i will hear mine crying and everything would be over…I dried my tears, deep breaths in and said “let’s do it”. gave myself in.
Wanted to see hubby one last time before, but i couldn’t as i was going to follow the internal corridors until the theater. Meanwhile, the Dr. saw me again, hold my hand, tried to calm me down and said everything was going to be fine…
11:10 it was the time they wrote in my i.v. bandaid….at 11.22 i entered the theater with familiar faces and nurses speaking portuguese. This time, i was speaking with the nurses, i shared a smile when i saw a familiar face, we spoke…I paid attention to the room, the green room, i saw the machines around..i really wanted to see how things were done…the team was calm, speaking normally, sharing laughs, talking about the next patient…it was a normal wednesday morning for them..i tried to keep myself calm too…but everything changed a little bit after…when i couldn’t understand why it took 6 tries to make the spinal anesthesia work..i was nervous, in pain, in a uncomfortable position, everybody telling me not to move/talk when i was not doing any of that!!!it was traumatic…
I won’t go into details of the c-section…i can just tell that this time was way more painful then the first. Not painful but more uncomfortable, more feelings, more sensitivity, more a lot of things then with the 1st one…Maybe i was more aware this time, my body been through it before…i don’t know…need to see why it was more challenging this time around. Next day i woke up so sore that i couldn’t move naturally…i could only move to the sides and with a lot of effort – wanted to breasted so bad!
The moments i will never forget during the c-section:
- The nurse holding my hand, comforting me, telling everything was fine..
- The Dr. telling me that i did the right choice in having the operation that day as my uterine lining was very thin
- The moment the nurse told me my baby was going to be born
- 12:02 – the time my baby was born and it was showed to me in the mids of smiles and congratulations. i had tears of joy – only joy and happiness rolling my eyes…
- She was shown to me 2 times and in this 2 times i thought she looked just like me.
- The moment the operation was finally over and i said my thanks your to everyone..i was o grateful for having such amazing team of Dr. and nurses with me until the end…also apologized for the screaming and unsettlement.
Once operation was done, i went to the observation room, where the nurse handed her phone to call hubby…he was soo surprised i called, i had no voice of energy to talk…i just told him we were fine and everything was over. I don’t think he had seen the Baby by that time..While Moms stay at the observation room, the Babies go to the Maternity ward on the 2nd floor.…i believe it was 12:45 and the nurse told me to tell him to go and have some lunch and comeback after 1h….aiii it was over…:) and i could see my daughter. Another extremely painful procedure was made there at the observation room, to make sure everything was sealed properly…that was pain…pure pain that i won’t forget.
During the 1h observation i spoke with the nurse..so nice, so grateful, words can’t describe….i rested, and rub my bump…that feeling of emptiness made me a bit sad but so relief and happy that we were both fine…operation went perfectly…so why be sad at that stage?I sent that thought away and filled my body with beautiful thoughts, positive energies and vibrations….maybe that’s why i left the hospital after 3 days?maybe that’s why my recovery is going so well and fast…maybe that’s why i managed to stand up, wash myself and breastfeed with no problems the 24h after…i don’t know, i can’t tell. The fact i had to come home to my Baby Sienna and Hubby also contributed and keep contributing for my fast recovery.
Maya, is her name. The decision was done while i was having cirgury..My Family was there, waiting for me, saying that Maya is beautiful, a Star, a Sparkle, a Princess, Perfect Perfect…i couldn’t wait to hold her in my arms and tell her how much i love her.
She was born with 47cm, and with 2.855kg…smaller than Sienna but a fighter just like her Sister. She is beautiful, perfect and healthy!
The moment i held Maya for the 1st tie in the middle of pain and joy, tears and happiness is that moment that i will treasure for life and the moment Sienna saw her Sister for the first time was priceless…such a loving and meaningful moment for all of us.
Giving Birth is definitely – in my opinion – the most beautiful and painful moment in a women’s life. You can’t control your hormones and feelings that are pretty mixed. You are in pain but it’s a pain for love. You feel joy and happiness but at the same time there is fear and pain, tears of excitement are mixed with tears of pain! Once you put your baby in the world you forget all about what you have been through, because the feeling of having your baby in the arms make it all soo worth it and for me, i know i would be through it all over again with no doubts!Such a a beautiful and magical Moment of our lives.
After 3 days, we were told we could go home. The new life as a parent of 2 under 3 was soon to begin!!
We are all in love with her. Now everybody is asking when is the boy arriving? Well, i promised the nurse that i would wait at least 18months-2 years to get pregnant again :)…Is Hubby onboard?not really but, i can always hope and wish for a 3rd one!